How Did My Agile Life Principles Come About?
It is sometimes very difficult to learn a skill we want, to complete a project that will improve our career – that is, to continue a job we need to continue and to maintain the same high level of motivation. In particular, if uncertainty and many issues outside our sphere of influence tie our hands to take the next step… So much so that once we start o tire, it starts pulling us into a spiral. I created My Agile Life Principles in this conditions.
This is how I felt years ago when I needed some principles. How would I get out of this spiral? Some solutions were coming to my mind, but I could not put them into practice.
I’ve always faced similar problems. For example; there was one project in which I needed to concentrate on to promote the success of my department. The entire team was excited and eager to take on tasks in the project and get going. I needed to provide training so that the work would be shared in a natural way in accordance with the team’s willingness. It would take me at least a week to prepare the training. In fact, I knew very good consultants, but I thought that I would go to the same effort instead of arguing with the boss over the budget. I had to start right away so that the team would not fall into the void.
That same day, the boss requested an urgent analysis of an important decision which needed to be made. I needed at least two days to concentrate on it. Moreover, there was no one yet on the team who I could delegate to. It was Friday and my husband had made a long-awaited weekend plan ahead of time. I immediately planned to take the computer with me and slink away to concentrate on the job in hand from time. Of course, I was included in my husband’s plan on Friday evening, and I couldn’t let her down or stop thinking about the work.
I couldn’t even pay attention to what was a delightful environment of fascinating conversation about doctor memories. The only thing on my mind was the analysis my boss wanted. He called on Friday and said he needed me on Monday. We never went into detail like how long it will take or if he had anything on; I knew it was important. It had to be done. On the other hand, while I was not involved in the ready conversation, I tried to slink off so I could look up a few stories for education, but my husband was very alert and I couldn’t turn my phone or computer on. On Saturday night, while everyone was asleep, I prepared the analysis. I even drafted an outline for the training. When I finally went to bed in the morning, I had the comfort of knowing I had made some progress. But 3 hours of sleep on a Sunday doesn’t help anyone, including a sullen and tired wife and mother.
After a few years of going through hundreds of self-loading situations like this, I realized something. When I looked at what I had earned after all this effort, I saw two baskets in which I put these earnings. One had the money, status, friendships and successes I had gained from my job, and the other had memories from my private life. I noticed that there was a gaping hole under the work basket. Every time you change a job, a lot of effort, emotional and financial investment, friendships and years disappear into that hole. Happy and sad memories were accumulating In my private life, and the number of people I loved and trusted was increasing. This increase was related to how long it took you to fill the second basket. I was seeing the emptiness of my basket, which I thought should have been overflowing, especially when my memories of my daughters’ childhood hurt me. However, it was easier to fill the second basket.
One day, while I was talking to my eldest daughter, I shared this thought with her. What they told me gave me the idea that first fired up the Myliba Model.
“Mummy, you did not neglect us. If you made a promise to me, you always keep it. But if you say you have to work, I knew that I had to find another way. When you’re happy, we’re happy too. I thought I should just do whatever made you happy.”
I thought balance was necessary to achieve happiness. At that time, sacrificing myself to make my loved ones happy was also not a solution. In order to avoid situations that would make me unhappy, I prepared the following recipe for happiness or, under its more technical name, the my Agile Life Principles.
My Agile Life Principles
1-I will work flexibly and do a lot of work in a short time; I will learn about all kinds of technology that will make my job easier.
2- I will be in agile environments. I will share the goal transparently, obtain the willing support of others and not let anyone waste my time or divert my attention from the goal.
3- I will work with people-oriented and visionary leaders.
4- My family and loved ones are my first priority. They will come first in my daily and weekly plans.
5- Instead of going fast, it is more important to proceed with steady progress, even if the steps get smaller.
6- I will plan together what I have to do, what I want to do and what is important.
7- These plans are flexible. They won’t stress me out.
8- I will use the energy I want, not for what I don’t want.
9- I will increase what I want in my life, I will expand the opportunities here.
10- I will continue to read and improve myself under all circumstances.
If you have noticed, in this process, if you are happy with your job, it is easy to quantify how much energy it can give you and how much it will eliminate what you don’t want.
So how do you reproduce what you want? There’s only one way to do this, and that’s to focus. At work, at home, with friends, focus on your wishes and balance them with the wishes of others. The most important outcome of this balance is peace. Learning the focus of others allows you to take better steps and obtain more support from others.
Here is the magic of this common mind and agile movement…
– State clearly what you want, your intention,
– Learn from others and
– Plan what you want without deviating from the 13 principles in a win-win balance…
These plans activate your mind so that you can see and even create opportunities related to your desires.
Through Myliba, we want to help you find that balance by using “OKR” and “CFR” in life.